sad but VEry true..

I was browsing thru my email..ths morning n found this in my inbox..fowarded from a fren..thought id share it wif u guys..

Interesting quote from the movie 'Why did I get married?'

In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship. There is always another person (man or women) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT
And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship.

But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT

But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had.
Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.

Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. 'Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker. But it's not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I'm crazy about her because she's also understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse is not'

Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did.

Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%. Let's say your wife is melancholic by nature.

You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: 'I broke my arm yes terday, Hahahaha . . ..'

Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt Or because your husband is the quiet
type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host.

But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have.

Don't throw away the 80% that you already have!

That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers.

Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have.

But faithfulness happens when you st art thanking God for what you already have.

But I'm not just talking about marriage.

I'm talking about life!

About your jobs.
About your friends.
About your children.
About your lifestyles.

Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? 'They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they've got personal videos!'

I guarantee you'll be miserable for the entire trip! Don't live your life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class -- because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?

The main message???

If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are, you are first class!

In loving memories...Makpon...Al-fatihah

I lost a dearly beloved aunt last rocked my world as she was a very very dear aunt...the wife of my mom's brother..for those aunt was the mother of our senior..n super senior to some of u guys..K.Fazidah Othman (suria) n MIL to Rezo Jasman (yes they married)..n oso an aunt to another SMSJians..Hizlan hussin (96)...(yes i hav a number of SMSJians in my family...which also includes my youngest bro Idris..n my second cousin...who's our super duper senior..batch 87..

My aunt just got back from Jakarta Bandung trip...accompanying her husband...i met her last she came to send my grandmother to late aunt takes care of my grandma most of the time....since my grandmother was in KL..i told hubbs that i wanna visit her..we spent a few hours there at K.fazidah's soo glad that i did..because that was the last time we chatted..she was fine..nothing odd or so...she left for Johor to my parents place the coming Monday as the flight was from Senai....

They came back last Friday..n my parents fetch them at the told me that makpon (we call her that) had a fever n was very weak..they took her to a clinic that nite n the doc ruled out that she may hav had a major food poisoning...Come uncle wanted to go back to off they went..she was still weak..all of her children cam back that nite....most of them arrived in the wee hours in the morning..they knocked on her door..she opened..although she was weak...they decide to take her to the hospital the following day (Sunday)..n she was admitted..she was sedated..doc said that she has very critical pnemonia which had effected her kidney causing it to not function ... come nite her Bp was very low so the doc gave her the strongest medicine to try and push the Bp back then all my aunts n uncle had gone back to Muar...feeling uneasy i contacted my car pool with them as hubbs had an urgent matter to attend to that day...but before we cud even begin our journey back...

She left us all at 8.55am..i was on my way back home wen i got the news..i felt dumbstruck...numb.and..speechless....till now i can never swallow the fact that she's gone forever...

I miss her..n can never begin to imagine how our raya wud be after this..she was the core of our raya..our family celebrations..she was always there behind every event in our family..Muar means her delicious food on the table...her laughter n smiles fills the hse..her images dances in front of me everytime i think of her..i miss her soo..sooo much..she's like another mother to me...a referral to my mom n aunts..a guide to cooking for all of us..n now shes gone...the hse instantly seems sooo gloomy..sooo sad..they'll b no more of her wonderful cakes n biscuits...

however the saddest part of all was wen her real mother aunt is actually Chinese by birth but given to a malay family...some years back.. they reunited..but i guess after soo many years it was very awkward for her n the mother to reconnect...the mother came wailing by her jenazah..

" mama datang..mama datang" wiping her face with handkerchief...
(it was a real drama swasta moment for us...)

thou thru all the glad that to see the masses of turnout for her was a sea of people...almost everybody in our huge-huge family came....glad to see that she had rows n rows of jemaah for her sembahyang jenazah..glad to know that her last breath was with by her two sons..her last breathe exhaled was just after her sons had finished reciting the last verse of yassin...glad that she didn't suffer long...and glad to see the her eldest son lead the jenazah prayers ...yup..mmg sejuk perut ibu mengandung..knowing that u raised such a just hits me to my deepest core...i hope that Harris will one day be able to do the same...being able to lead the last prayer for me..means a lot...i hope u guys can encourage (including myself) n prepare ur husbands..brothers especially those eldest to do the same for their may be the best gift they can ever receive..even though they cannot see it virtually....

In loving memories..of Hajjah Nyapon Hj Abd Wahab....u'll b greatly missed..i really really miss u..n hope Allah tempatkan Makpon dikalangan yang beriman...amin...


p/s thank you to my parents inlaw for coming all the way from JB...


While bloghopping, i found an interesting cause that i strongly support..n hope u guys will do too..i extracted the most important and common Q&A concerning breastfeeding..n due to this is why most breastfeeding especially those exclusivly find it a very offensive subject wen people give negative comments or judge them wen all thier trying to do is give thier ultimate best to thier child...

so if ur on the same boat as me pls sign this petition clicking here

Why should babies be breastfed?
  • Breast milk is the most complete form of nutrition for infants. Breast milk has just the right amount of fat, sugar, water, and protein that is needed for a baby's growth and development. Most babies find it easier to digest breast milk than they do formula.
  • There are health risks to the baby if it is not breastfed. Breast milk has agents (called antibodies) in it to help protect infants from bacteria and viruses. Babies who are not exclusively breastfed for 6 months are more likely to develop a wide range of infections diseases including ear infections, diarrhea, and respiratory illnesses. They are sick more often and have more doctor's visits.
  • Breastfed babies score higher on IQ tests in childhood, especially babies who were born prematurely.
  • Nursing uses up extra calories, making it easier to lose the extra weight gained during pregnancy. It also helps the uterus to get back to its original size and lessens any bleeding you might have after giving birth.
  • Breastfeeding lowers the risk of breast and ovarian cancers and possibly the risk of hip fractures and osteoporosis after menopause.
  • Breastfeeding can help women bond with their babies. Physical contact is important to newborns and can help them feel more secure, warm and comforted.


Benefits for Infant Benefits for Mother
  • Perfect food for infant
  • Guarantees safe, fresh milk
  • Enhances immune system
  • Protects against infectious and noninfectious diseases
  • Protects against food allergies and intolerances
  • Decreases risk of diarrhea and respiratory infections
  • Promotes correct development of jaw, teeth, and speech patterns
  • Decreases risk of childhood obesity
  • Increases cognitive function
  • Increases bonding with mother
  • Promotes less postpartum bleeding
  • Promotes faster return to pre-pregnancy weight
  • Eliminates the need for preparing and mixing formula
  • Saves money not spent on formula
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  • Promotes faster shrinking of the uterus
  • reases risk of breast and ovarian cancer
  • Increases bonding with infant
  • Enhances self-esteem in the maternal role
  • Delays the menstrual cycle

2. What are good breastfeeding practices?

Good breastfeeding practices include:

  • Starting to breastfeed within one hour of birth
  • Feeding the baby breastmilk and nothing else, not even water, for the first six months of life
  • Introducing other appropriate and adequate foods thereafter while continuing to breastfeed the baby for as long as possible

3. Why is breastfeeding the baby within one hour of birth important

The breasts make milk only if they are stimulated by suckling. A baby just born needs only a few drops of milk, and the mother's breasts have this. When the baby suckles, the breast is stimulated to produce more milk. The baby will go to sleep with the just the few drops, but when he/she wakes up, the mother's breast will be full of milk for the next feed. The first few drops of milk, called colostrum, protects the baby from infections. Feeding within one hour of birth can reduce the risk of illness by 6 times.

4. How can a woman start breastfeeding within an hour after a Cesarian?

Initiation of breastfeeding is often delayed after a cesarian section. However, the woman can start breastfeeding as soon as she is fully conscious and alert. Women who have epidural anesthesia are generally able to hold the baby sooner and nurse for a longer period initially, than those who have general anesthesia. It is important that the woman breastfeeds the baby during the first day.

5. What is colostrum and how does it help the baby?

Colostrum is the thick, yellowish milk that the mother's breast produces for the first few days after delivery. It is rich in antibodies against several common diseases. When the baby drinks colostrum, the antibodies pass into its body and help to protect the baby against these infections, which can be life threatening for the baby

6. What is exclusive breastfeeding?

Exclusive breastfeeding means giving the baby only breastmilk and nothing else. Any other fluid or foods, even water, can interfere with the milk supply.

7. What about water?

During the six months of exclusive breastfeeding, the baby does not require anything else, not even water. Breastmilk alone is sufficient to meet all its needs. During this period, the baby should not be given any water, other milks, juices, teas, soups, or any other kinds of liquids and solids, other than immunization (drops, such as Oral Polio Vaccine), any medication as part of a treatment prescribed by a qualified health worker.

8. What if the baby continues to be hungry after breastfeeding?

All women can produce enough milk for their babies. Only extremely malnourished women may have difficulty in doing so. The amount of milk produced depends on how often the baby suckles and for how long. The flow of milk from the breast to the baby is dependent upon the woman's state of mind. If she is depressed or worried, the milk that is already in her breasts may not flow to the baby's mouth. She may then get the feeling that her breasts are not producing enough milk for the baby. A trained counsellor can help the woman with her stress and fears, so that the milk will flow from her breast to the baby.

9. What about sore breasts, cracked nipples, etc.?

These problems are usually caused when the milk produced by the breast does not reach the baby. They can be easily treated by a health worker. A trained counsellor can help the woman to relax and enjoy breastfeeding. As the baby continues to suckle and draw out the milk, the problems will disappear.

10. Will exclusive breastfeeding for six months weaken the mother?

A breastfeeding woman requires some extra nutritious food everyday as milk production requires about 800 calories daily. An extra helping of wholesome fruits, vegetables, whole grains, protein, and calcium-rich foods such as an extra glass of milk will meet her needs. She must drink plenty of water during the day while breastfeeding.

11. Can a woman breastfeed if her breasts are small?

Of course! Breast size is not related to the ability to produce milk. Breast size is dependent on the amount of fatty tissue in the breast, and not the amount of milk.

12. Does breastfeeding make breasts sag?

Several studies have shown that breastfeeding does not cause breasts to sag. Sagging is a natural and inevitable process that happens because of age, number of pregnancies and smoking. Diet and genetics may also play a role. Sagging of breasts is not related to breastfeeding in any way.

13. How can a working woman exclusively bring up her baby on breastmilk?

Today, several governments and private sector institutions offer maternity leave to women, when the women can recuperate from child birth and breastfeed the baby. When women do have to go to work, they can express their breastmilk either by hand or by using a breastpump. This milk can be stored, warmed as needed and fed to the baby by the care giver.

14. What about infant formula and other baby milk produced by companies? Are these as good as breastmilk?

Breastmilk is the best milk for babies. No other milk, whether fresh, or powdered, can meet their needs fully. Even the most hygienically manufactured milk is not as good as breastmilk for the baby. However, several times, the manufactured milks may be contaminated with bacteria, chemicals, toxics, etc. Or the water that is used for mixing the milk may be contaminated with these substances even if it is boiled, making other milks doubly dangerous for the baby.

15. Is it safe to take medications while breastfeeding?

Always tell the health worker that you are breastfeeding before taking any medication. The health worker will advise you on the need, the dosage and the precautions you may need to take.

all info are obtained from ONE MILLION CAMPAIGN

p/s there's no such thing as insufficient's just mind over matter subject...a negative input will actually cause the production of milk to be the body will react in a sense that the baby needs to be guys..pls..if ur not exclusively breastfeeding..its ok..but don't meddle with negative comments of an exclusive breastfeeding mother..cause it does disrupt her milk production...

The HAIR urge....

I have this weird trait wen it concerns my's like..wen the urge comes to have it cropped off or permed or the sort..i just have to do it like NOW!! it cannot must be within 48hrs.. or else it it will bug rants in my head like " i must cut my hair!!..i must cut my hair!!!.." it only shuts up wen im fast asleep...

So this urge happened to me last weekend..i looked at my reflection in my not so magic mirror..n i looked at my not so healthy locks..n "BoOOm!!" the clock ticks n the chants starts....

So after visiting my grandma last saturday..hubbs wanted to take a nap..i just couldn't wait to dive into a salon...didn't even care to go inside my hse once everyone was out of the car...i just needed to go to the salon...( was that bad!!) but mr. hubbs manage to persuade me into performing Asar prayers first...

Off i scooted to Taipan to my fav salon ..KIMMARIE...I love going there because it was cheap..RM25 for senior stylist haircut plus wash n blow..i reckon it was a the stylist there r friendly n they really tell u what style suits u n not that suits their pocket...i was intending to do hair relaxing..perhaps in a few months time..but the stylist told me not to do any of the sort as i have this natural wave at the bottom of my according to looks just a haircut wud do..

So after the cropping n trimming..the stylist mention that i do not need to do any trimming or the sort for 6 months... (c i told u guys it was a steal...RM25 for 6 months!!.. cheaper than hubbs hair maintainance..cropping at a barber cost him RM10 per month!!)

The only downside of this place is that its Sooooo hard to park in this Weekends preferably n not during lunch hours...but it was a breeze for me as it was only 5 mins from home..

With the hair i can get my good nites sleep back without having to worry about any hair nightmares...hihihi